After doing some soul-searching, Hannah has an epiphany; Shoshanna has a disastrous interview; Ray attends a community board meeting; Marnie and Desi disagree about how to define their sound; Adam is shocked by a revelation.
Hannah discovers she can get more for her money in Iowa; during a video chat, Hannah prods Marnie for information about Adam; Hannah warns her fellow workshop writers that her piece might trigger some intense emotions.
In the Season 4 premiere, Hannah has one last dinner in New York with her parents and Adam before packing up to leave for the Iowa Writers’ Workshop. Meanwhile, Marnie and Desi play a jazz-brunch gig for a tough crowd at a downtown restaurant; Shoshanna’s annoyed by her parents after getting her diploma; and Jessa clashes with Beedie’s daughter over her caretaker status.
Midway through “On All Fours,” Charlie tries to shrug off some obnoxious behavior by Ray by telling Shoshanna, “He’s Ray. You know? And that’s how he is.” Shoshanna repeats those words back to him in a tone that makes Charlie think he’s offended her, but the expression on her face in the exchange tells a different story. Shoshanna’s not offended; she’s dismayed to realize she’s dating a guy whose difficult behavior can be written off with those nine words.
“He’s Ray. You know? And that’s how he is.”
Charlie is telling her that he’s long since given up expecting better from his best friend – that Ray cannot change who he is and how he acts. Shoshanna has already been having doubts about this relationship – hence that time she “held the doorman’s hand,” a new euphemism that I expect to be turning into a meme any second now – but when it’s phrased in such blunt, fatalistic terms, it’s easy for doubt to become hopelessness. Shoshanna dated Ray because he was nice and she liked him, but she also clearly viewed him as a fixer-upper, and when we’ve seen them together this season, he hasn’t shown much interest in being fixed.
Or maybe, like Charlie, he’s accepted that he can’t be fixed.